“What happens in this house/family, stays in this house/family.” This practice of, “What happens in this house stays in this house,” has kept so many of us bound for years and is still keeping us bound today!Dr. Ellis O. Henderson, ED.D, M.DIV, Chief Executive Officer of NDUTIME Youth & Family Services, Inc.,
Why
did you write your book?
I Didn’t
Know – Identifying, Confronting, and Overcoming Child Sexual Abuse is only my second book. Believe
me; I do not consider this to be a small feat.
It’s just that I have yet to consider myself to be a writer or an
author; at least not yet. Oh, I imagine that will come in time. But for now, I am comfortable with writing
for an audience of one.
My writings
thus far, are about my life experiences.
As such, all of my writing is very personal to me. I always seem to start out with a simple
desire to put my thoughts, feelings, and experiences on paper. I like to look over my life in print and
reflect over the things I have done right (properly or correctly) and those
things that I have done wrong (improperly; my mishaps or missteps). I find this to be very cathartic.
The idea
for writing I Didn’t Know – Identifying, Confronting, and Overcoming Child
Sexual Abuse came from watching Tyler Perry on The Oprah Winfree Show one
day. On this particular show, he came
forward to tell his story about being sexual abused. From there, his story became a platform. Then they, Oprah Winfree and Tyler Perry,
took his story to the next level by having an audience filled with nothing but
men who had been sexually abused. I
think this was two with separate shows; a show with just Tyler Perry and then
another with Tyler Perry, perhaps a counselor, and an all-male audience. At present, I really cannot remember the
actual format of the show or shows; I just remember the impact it had upon
me. I thought what he had done, his
coming forward, was very brave and took a great deal of courage. I remember sitting on the sofa crying
thinking to myself those must have really been some terrible experiences. It was at that moment, I heard the Lord speak
to me saying, “You have been sexually abused as well.” I sat for a moment thinking to myself, “When
and how could this have happened?”
That’s when He, the Lord, reminded me of the things that had happened to
me. As He began to share my experiences
with me, I became compelled to tell someone; anyone who would listen. I very strongly believed then as I do now,
that victims of child sexual abuse could no longer be silent and continue to
allow these heinous acts to be swept under the carpet. Someone had to be bold enough to come
forward!
From there,
I started writing. As God took me down
memory lane, I just began to write down everything He said to me. It was like taking dictation. So, I guess the short answer for why did I
write my book is because people need to know what happened to me because I know
it has happened to countless others. The
number of people (victims) who remain silent and never tell their stories far
outweighs those who have come forward.
Therefore, my quest in writing this book was/is:
§
To expose the enemy (I
believe this lessens his power)
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To overcome the guilt
& shame by being able to confront it head on
§
To encourage and educate
others on how to identify, confront & overcome sexual abuse
§
To set the captives FREE
I’m telling
my story ALL for God’s Glory
I’m telling
it NOW all to His Glory.
I’m telling
it NOW so that He can get the Glory!!
Author
I DIDN’T
KNOW VIRTUAL BOOK TOUR with YVETTE ALLEN- TATUM
October
7- Nov 1, 2013
Paperback: 110
pages
Publisher: Kingdom
Publishing Group, Inc. (March 15, 2013)
Language: English
ISBN-10:
0988312670
ISBN-13:
978-0988312678
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About
The Book
“I Didn't Know" is for more than just an audience of
one. If you look to your left, look to your right, or directly in the mirror,
you will see or know someone who has been sexually abused... even if you look
in the mirror, and the person is YOU! More than the tragedy of sexual abuse is
the tragedy of the silence of sexual abuse. It must be talked about. Our
stories have to be shared; someone's life is literally depending upon YOU to
BREAK THE IGNORANCE OF SILENCE! "I Didn't Know" brings to the
forefront the many hidden faces of child sexual abuse. The author, Yvette L.
Allen-Tatum, shares not only her story, but the compelling testimonies of
others--everyone from the actual victim, to the offender, to those who standby
by in disbelief and allow these heinous crimes against our children to
continue. Our voices have to be heard, our children must be free or freed to
tell the TRUTH: that someone touched them. Who can they run to? Will it be you?
About
The Author
Author, Teacher, Conference Host, Public Speaker, Encourager,
Motivator, Ordained & licensed Minister of The Gospel, Radical for Christ,
undercover Comedian and the list goes on...
Yvette is a graduate of Grace Christian College where she
earned her Masters of Divinity and a Bachelor of Arts in Theology. She is also a graduate of University of
Richmond, where she earned a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration
with a Concentration in Finance and a Minor in Leadership Studies. In addition,
she has 30 plus years of experience in income tax preparation and
bookkeeping.
As the Founder of Surrounded by Faith Ministries, Yvette has
had the opportunity to touch and transform the lives of many women with the
Word of God. This mighty Woman of God
has a prophetic teaching anointing which has enabled her to cross many
boundaries. As such, the Call of God on
her life has broadened from transforming the lives of women to transforming
LIVES with the Word of God. While she
still holds a passion to train and equip women in the life study and
application of the Bible, her ultimate goal is to strengthen families. To do so her platform is geared to men, women
and children.
From The Author
I Didn't Know - Identifying, Confronting & Overcoming Child Sexual
Abuse - the title is indicative of the subject matter. In this book
the author brings to the forefront the many faces of child sexual abuse; those
of the victims and the abusers. Yvette Allen-Tatum boldly confronts her
past of child sexual abuse to demonstrate that TRUE deliverance is
possible. Yvette believes that we ALL (victims, abusers, enablers,
nay-sayers, etc.) can OVERCOME the horrible effects of child sexual abuse.
This book proves that true healing is possible and necessary
for us to become more than CONQUERORS through Christ Jesus.
As a community, we have to:
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Identify Child Sexual Abuse –
o
We have to talk about it (raise public awareness)
o
Know the signs & symptoms
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Confront Child Sexual Abuse –
o
Error on the side of caution – THE CHILD
o
Be quick to BELIEVE the victim and make all
necessary inquiries
o
Studies show people are more apt to believe the
innocence of the accused; this has to END
§
Overcome Child Sexual Abuse –
o
We overcome by the Blood of the Lamb and the WORD
of OUR TESTIMONY
Connect
with the Author
Twitter:
Twitter.com/loosed03
Facebook: Facebook.com/Yvette.tatum
Facebook: Facebook.com/Yvette.tatum
Buy Links
Father it is my sincere prayer that this book is used as a tool to help set the captives free and as a weapon to tear down the false walls of the enemy that have them bound. I thank you that this book will be a catalyst to compel the person reading this book to shout out loud,
“I will never be bound again!”
My 5 Star Review
I received this book from the touring host for an honest review.
Informative well laid out and to the point.
A very serious subject is touched in this book, and I love the title of the book. After reading the book, you will have no excuse. The Word of God says "Be vigilant for your adversary walks around like a lion to see whom he can devour."
What author Yvette Allen-Tatum does is profound, being the voice of the millions of children that can not speak for themselves due to threats made to them, and their families. Obedience is such an important thing in our children, it gives them the boundaries to walk in and is a security blanket, knowing they are safe and someone loves them. But yet it is also the one thing that will put our children in harms way. The author highlights it, the offender will use it to his advantage. Never saw it that way, after reading the book I can not say I did not know.
She is very direct in her approach, telling it as it is but yet the compassion and love of the subject is wonderfully illustrated throughout this book. Breaking down the lies that us as grown-ups and children believe.
This is a book that I can recommend to all readers with children, not only Christians. Yes, the author comes from a biblical perspective, but she does not preach, only laying down the facts under the guidance of the Bible. Instructional and informative.
An easy read, as she confronts and detailed the issues regarding this topic. Coming with facts and not mere speculations. Easy to understand as she comes straight to the point, but always in love and understanding.
WHO IS SHE?
Fierce, yes that’s what she is in every possible meaning of the word. The Encarta Dictionary defines the term this way: fierce (adjective) 1. Aggressive characterized by showing aggression or anger 2. Violent or intense characterized by the violence or intensity of the forces, activity or participants involved 3. Profound deeply and intensely felt and often aggressively expressed. According to Online Slang Dictionary, fierce is “notably excellent or of superior quality.” Yes, she is aggressive, violent, intense and her message profound. She declares war against the forces of darkness; feeding the hungry, anointing the sick and delivering the captives. She is a woman of excellence and everything she does boasts of superior quality. From head to toe she is fierce.
Bridgette D. WilliamsAuthor, “Mama’s Diary”
Thanks Lynelle for hosting Yvette on her tour and the great review
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DeleteThank you Lynelle for your heart-felt review of I Didn't Know!
ReplyDeleteGreat book and a must read. Wish you all the best with the book.
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ReplyDeleteLynelle, I had to double-back to your blog to let you know your review of I Didn't Know had me in tears; tears of Gratefulness. I am grateful to God for the opportunity to get this information out to the world. I am also grateful that the message is well received & the purpose for writing I Didn't Know is understood. Thanks Again!
ReplyDeleteI think it is a very important topic, and not discussed enough. You wrote with compassion and grace, which make it a best seller in my eyes.
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